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Phase I

Tension Building Phase

Phase II

Violence Episode

Phase III

Honeymoon Phase

During the Cycle of Violence the duration of each phase may vary depending on the individual perpetrator and his or her history with being violent.

Tension Building: The phase includes the gradual increase in tension through arguments, isolation, blaming, and manipulation. The abuser will use events during this phase to blame the partner for "causing" the abuse and ends with the tension. Often victims say it is like "walking on eggshells."

Violent Episode: This could be physically, psychologically, or sexually abusive incident.

Honeymoon Phase: The abuser begin to feel sorry for what he did he start to show remorse and promise to change. This is a period where the abuser go out and get gifts or flowers and bring back to give to his/her partner.

 

 

TEACH YOUR KIDS TO USE 911
THE LIFE THEY SAVE COULD BE YOURS.

Never forget that 911 is your lifeline to police protection and intervention. If possible, get out away from the abuser and call from a neighbor's house, pay phone, or other location with other people around. If this is too dangerous, try to get to a bedroom or other room where you can lock the door to make your call. WARNING: YOUR AVERAGE TEN YEAR OLD CAN KICK IN A BATHROOM DOOR! Be sure that you've checked your safety plan and you'll know how to get OUT of that room if you need to (maybe a window?) in case your abuser has a key or kicks the door in.

Domestic Violence Victim Bill of Rights

  • You have the right NOT to be abused.

  • You have the right to anger over past beatings.

  • You have a right to choose to change the situation.

  • You have a right to freedom from fear of abuse.

  • You have a right to share your feelings and not be isolated from others.

  • You have a right to be treated like an adult.

  • You have a right to privacy.

  • You have a right to express your own thoughts and feelings.

  • You have a right to develop your individual talents and abilities.

  • You have a right to legally prosecute the abusing spouse.

  • You have a right not to be perfect.